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Faceplant

01-29-2001, 07:34 PM

read my topic is lessons..

my friend killed himself this afternoon around 2:30 im told.

what i have to say to you is..if you have a friend that is contemplating..or even joking about suicide..take 5 minutes out of your heathly life to talk to them..

in my case..it was more than talking that he needed..i did all i could...

if you have a friend like i had, tell someone..parents, or even call the hospital for them so they can be watched and helped.

life is a precious thing...tell your friends and family you love them, everyday, twice a day...a hug can go a long way...treat every moment as its last.

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Sirus

01-29-2001, 08:03 PM

Oh god, I read your thread 3 days ago and prayed that he wouldn't. I'm sorry for your loss.

SisterTaffy

01-29-2001, 08:14 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Faceplant:

life is a precious thing...tell your friends and family you love them, everyday, twice a day...a hug can go a long way...treat every moment as its last.
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You are so right my little friend. I've had two friends and a relative to take their own lives and it's tragic beyond words.

You are such a good kid (no offense meant by age) and I know that you did do everything you could. You have a big heart and a great mind. Your friend was very lucky to have known you, as are we all. I hope that everyone will realize just how true your words are.

I'm sending good thoughts your way. Take care of yourself. This is hard on you too.

(((((((hugs))))))))

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King Bastard

01-29-2001, 08:16 PM

I too am very sadden by this bad news, but RW is right. We can be concerend, and offer help to those who need it, but in the end it comes down to having the free will to do what you want with yourself.

Just know that if you feel the need to vent and rant on this, shit, this or any other painful topic, we are here to help you thru it.

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Lucretia

01-29-2001, 08:17 PM

I know what it's like to lose a good friend. I've had some do it themselves, some didn't have to. I feel for you faceplant. I'm sorry to hear it. If you need to talk, I'm here.

I've noticed a lot of times that people try to call out for help. They say they're going to kill themselves, and they're told that it's stupid. I really don't think that's what they need to hear. That's not going to make them feel any better. If anything, it's going to make them feel as if someone isn't taking them seriously. Kind of like saying, I dare you. Keep that in mind. Remember that EVERY little words counts. No matter may feel about a situation, they're being serious. You may think that it's stupid, they don't.

Faceplant

01-29-2001, 08:35 PM

thanks all.

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gone~away

01-29-2001, 09:38 PM

face... im so sorry..

i cannot empathize, i have never had a friend kill themselves, though a few i know say they are close...

i know what you went through trying to keep him from it and it was all you could do.. you can't convince someone to live for you, or anyone else... only for themselves......

dont forget his memory or the lesson he has tought you.. that's all that can be done

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Raven

01-29-2001, 09:55 PM

I agree with Rogue.
Just to play devils advocate here; has anyone ever experienced a situation where a person has been prevented from "self-termination" and then maybe months down the track thanked everybody/whomever for helping them through it all? What's are your opinions on that?

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Rabble Rouser

01-29-2001, 10:00 PM

Face, I'm so sorry for your loss...I had one of my closest friends kill himself out of the blue...I know how devastating it is. As has been said before, it's made me want to treat every moment as if it was my last...I never saw it coming, and there's so much I wish I could have told him.

What you said is so true. If you need to talk to me, you know where I am. I'm so sorry. *hugs*

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Princess_Heather

01-29-2001, 11:20 PM

Why wasn't the guy locked up in a psychiatric care facility? Especially if he had been hospitalized by attempts at taking his life? I just don't understand how after his tendencies had been made obvious, it was allowed to happen.

I'm sorry if I sound cynical or ignorant or insensitive... I don't understand and I can't relate. I know if MY kid had even mentioned suicide, let alone attempted it, I would not let him be ALONE for a second.

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zoey

01-29-2001, 11:53 PM

Faceplant i'm really sorry. http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/frown.gif *hug*

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Faceplant

01-30-2001, 12:13 AM

thanks zoey..thanks all..

heather, i dont know..i wasnt his parents, i was mearly there for support, which obvously wasnt myself...now that i think i wish i had called or made someone well aware..more aware then already..

RW...i know..i agree to an extent but its still a horrid thing to live through.

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Mudflap

01-30-2001, 02:51 AM

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Raven:
...has anyone ever experienced a situation where a person has been prevented from "self-termination" and then maybe months down the track thanked everybody/whomever for helping them through it all? What's are your opinions on that?

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Right here fruit-cake. Some odd years ago, a female friend of mine was contemplating suicide. She called me at her darkest hour. I intervened by getting her room-mate and parents involved. She got the help she needed and fully recovered. Her parents thanked me after they realized how unaware they were of their own daughter's mental state. The young lady in question thanked me months down the road. If I had it to do over again, I would.

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The Rapist

01-30-2001, 05:13 AM

My Condolences Face. No words will fully reach the depth of the experience and loss. I belive that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and as such is very selfish on the part of the person that commits. What bothers me most is that the decision about what one does with their life is indeed theirs, but...BUT..must include the effect that it will have on all those who chose to call him/her friend, brother/sister, Mom/Dad, Son/daughter etc. They aren't around afterward to ease the pain that I see all the time with the figurative "What if's" Thing is Face, your friend KNEW you would help, and probably knew others that would have done the same. he/she made the choice not to accept. I find your willingness to stand by and offer help a courageous act, because in saying you'll help, you have to go through fears of your own. Courage is doing what is right, even if others turn away. Face, you are courageous. It's sad when your friend did not recognize that strength and draw from it.

Koliedrus

01-30-2001, 02:03 PM

Face,

I've recently experienced something quite similar.

I'll meet up with you in Lessons. What we've gone through shouldn't be lost in the mix.

My deepest empathy for the saddness surrounding you and those around you.

Faceplant

01-30-2001, 07:01 PM

thanks again all...there nothing more i can say to that..sorry.

thank your all for your nurmerous ICQ messages and chats on mIRC..

oddly enough, beside chain smoking..the internet is actually soothing to me. its easier to vent because you dont need to sit there and look the person in the eye your talking, which is always hard for me. ive locked my door with a couple six packs of pepsi and a carton of newports, and its helping me..slowly, but steadly.

once again thank you, and the support and helpful tips make me feel very good.

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Strider

01-30-2001, 09:58 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Faceplant:
read my topic is lessons..

my friend killed himself this afternoon around 2:30 im told.

what i have to say to you is..if you have a friend that is contemplating..or even joking about suicide..take 5 minutes out of your heathly life to talk to them..

in my case..it was more than talking that he needed..i did all i could...

if you have a friend like i had, tell someone..parents, or even call the hospital for them so they can be watched and helped.

life is a precious thing...tell your friends and family you love them, everyday, twice a day...a hug can go a long way...treat every moment as its last.

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I know how you feel, I know how it is. Same thing happened to me two years ago. One of my very best friends committed suicide leaving his daughter without a father, his wife without a husband, his parents without their oldest son, and several friends left wondering whatTF? WHYTF? etc. Sad thing it is. People ended up blaming themselves when there was really nothing they could do.

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