Fatherhood

[Time Slipping]

What do you all think about it? Huh? I might become an (unintentional) father in a few months and I wanna see your opinions on it.

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"Those who seek my life will be destroyed
They will go down to the depths of the earth
They will be given over to the sword
and become the food of the jackals"
"The strong are strongest alone"
"Why did I not have you killed? Because your mission and your act you are about to committ proves the truth of all I have ever said or done. Death is nothing compared to vindication.

[Poteen]

Congrats!

I myself will not have kids till I'm married and done screwing around http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/smile.gif (and thats not for QUITE a while!!! hehe)

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I have nothing useful to put here right now...

[Time Slipping]

The problem is that I'm not married and I was fucking around.

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"Those who seek my life will be destroyed
They will go down to the depths of the earth
They will be given over to the sword
and become the food of the jackals"
"The strong are strongest alone"
"Why did I not have you killed? Because your mission and your act you are about to committ proves the truth of all I have ever said or done. Death is nothing compared to vindication.

[Koliedrus]

That wind outside your window has nothing to do with weather patterns. I just took a deep breath in preparation for my response.

I don't want this question to get lost in the mix so I'm moving it to Lessons.

[MuffyTheVampyreLayer]

Kids absolutely, completely and utterly rock!
They are a lot of work, but also a constant source of love, joy and hillarity. They can also be very insightful. They must, however, be kept away from cans of spray paint at all times http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/eek.gif

Congrats. I hope you gain as much pleasure from your rugrat as I do from mine.

[skalie]

You never mentioned before that you were a father Muffy.

[Koliedrus]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by Time Slipping:
The problem is that I'm not married and I was fucking around.

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I'll take for granted that you now know one of the purposes of a condom http://www.thehypertribe.net/ubb/wink.gif

Now that the seed has been sewn, what are the possibilities of you taking on the responsibility?

No matter what you and she decide, your life has changed. Opinions presented here will either stem from personal experience/perception or we can focus directly on your particular situation.

Divulge as much information as is comfortable for you. Contact those who hit close to a solution by any method you wish.

Muffy is right on target thus far; my kids are my life.

On the other hand, if I had knocked up some girl in a fit of passion only to find that the event would follow me for the rest of my life...

Discuss.

[MAC]

Been there, done that.
See my post in "Accident".

I'll tell you the one thing I learned.
All philosophy debate aside.

You will wake up one morning and say
"Well, I'm going to do this."
Then you will.
Its that simple. Its that powerful.
Its forever.
If you won't do that. Leave now.
Don't hang around for years doubting, wondering, debating, resenting.

And remember you are one side of this equation. You may accept yours but she may not except hers. She may spend years with the doubt, etc. Your faith will support her at those times of debate and resent.

A smarty guy once told me "The 50/50 bullshit, doesn't mean 50/50. Some days its 90/10, 35/65, 05/95, etc It will average out"

And finally always,
always,
always remember
You do not have the kid, it has you.
It could be raised by anyone, at any time, anywhere. This is your opportunity for however long it takes.


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Don't shake the devil's hand and say you're only kidding.

[Flit]

<BLOCKQUOTE><HR>Originally posted by theMAC:
You will wake up one morning and say
"Well, I'm going to do this."
Then you will.
Its that simple. Its that powerful.
Its forever.
If you won't do that. Leave now.
Don't hang around for years doubting, wondering, debating, resenting.

A smarty guy once told me "The 50/50 bullshit, doesn't mean 50/50. Some days its 90/10, 35/65, 05/95, etc It will average out"

And finally always,
always,
always remember
You do not have the kid, it has you.
It could be raised by anyone, at any time, anywhere. This is your opportunity for however long it takes.

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I could not have said it better myself, not in a million years.

Well done!!